Comments on: Long Distance Relationships–should be a personal choice. http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 01:46:12 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Snaps http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-609 Snaps Fri, 11 Sep 2009 02:06:02 +0000 http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-609 i agree. trust is a huge factor in long distance relationships, and if both people don't contribute to that factor, it's just going to fall apart in front of you. Many guys are in relationships just to "get some", and that's why ALL relationships are difficult, because you have to determine whether or not they are being honest, or if they are just trying to get in your pants. (this goes for some females too, don't get me wrong, i'm not being sexist and pointing the finger at just males.) So you have to ask yourself, are you willing to get hurt to find out if this is the real thing, or just a fling. As for me personally, i know i have the real thing and i'm more than thrilled to say, i'm moving back to Denver in a few months and we will finally be closer to eachother. Thank you for your comment! i agree. trust is a huge factor in long distance relationships, and if both people don’t contribute to that factor, it’s just going to fall apart in front of you.
Many guys are in relationships just to “get some”, and that’s why ALL relationships are difficult, because you have to determine whether or not they are being honest, or if they are just trying to get in your pants. (this goes for some females too, don’t get me wrong, i’m not being sexist and pointing the finger at just males.) So you have to ask yourself, are you willing to get hurt to find out if this is the real thing, or just a fling. As for me personally, i know i have the real thing and i’m more than thrilled to say, i’m moving back to Denver in a few months and we will finally be closer to eachother. Thank you for your comment!

]]> By: fall92 http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-608 fall92 Thu, 20 Aug 2009 01:12:47 +0000 http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-608 Yeah, it's great for a girl if the two are ACTUALLY and SINCERELY in love. But you have to think about things logically. Unless there are two people who live in reality and ACTUALLY love each other (I love you is easy to say without meaning it, especially for a guy), it makes sense that a person (again, not saying my gender is awesome here-- we're usually the ones to screw over a girl) is 10x more likely to cheat. That's the only reason why I didn't pursue a relationship with a girl who lives in Michigan. She's amazing, funny, smart, and beautiful-- but that's just the problem. She IS beautiful, and guys know it. It'd be easy for any one of them with giant abs to manipulate her by saying they're "in love with her" and they were "meant to be together" and that their boyfriend "isn't around." So, if you're fully confident that there is no possibility that there could be a cheating party, be my guest. I don't know you-- you could be a fully intelligent person in this matter in a relationship with a guy who actually and genuinely IS totally in love with you. But what I'm saying is that there are a lot more douchebag guys pretending to be the most romantic thing in the world than genuinely good guys who want to be with a girl because of who she is. So don't live in ignorance by saying, "Go for it, it's awesome!" Because us guys are morons, and that's a fact. Yeah, it’s great for a girl if the two are ACTUALLY and SINCERELY in love.

But you have to think about things logically. Unless there are two people who live in reality and ACTUALLY love each other (I love you is easy to say without meaning it, especially for a guy), it makes sense that a person (again, not saying my gender is awesome here– we’re usually the ones to screw over a girl) is 10x more likely to cheat.

That’s the only reason why I didn’t pursue a relationship with a girl who lives in Michigan. She’s amazing, funny, smart, and beautiful– but that’s just the problem. She IS beautiful, and guys know it. It’d be easy for any one of them with giant abs to manipulate her by saying they’re “in love with her” and they were “meant to be together” and that their boyfriend “isn’t around.”

So, if you’re fully confident that there is no possibility that there could be a cheating party, be my guest. I don’t know you– you could be a fully intelligent person in this matter in a relationship with a guy who actually and genuinely IS totally in love with you.

But what I’m saying is that there are a lot more douchebag guys pretending to be the most romantic thing in the world than genuinely good guys who want to be with a girl because of who she is. So don’t live in ignorance by saying, “Go for it, it’s awesome!” Because us guys are morons, and that’s a fact.

]]> By: FRUIT http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-607 FRUIT Tue, 11 Aug 2009 06:24:16 +0000 http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-607 Oh, it's good that you've seen him then Oh, it’s good that you’ve seen him then

]]> By: Snaps http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-606 Snaps Mon, 10 Aug 2009 21:54:13 +0000 http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-606 I met the person through a family member (they were friends) and when I met him, we instantly fell for eachother. He already lived in a different state. I was born and raised in Denver, so most of my family is still up there. So he's always been in a different state but we met before we got into a relationship. I met the person through a family member (they were friends) and when I met him, we instantly fell for eachother. He already lived in a different state. I was born and raised in Denver, so most of my family is still up there. So he’s always been in a different state but we met before we got into a relationship.

]]> By: FRUIT http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-605 FRUIT Sat, 08 Aug 2009 23:30:59 +0000 http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-605 Just curious, is it a relationship where you met the person before hand and they moved, or did you actually get into the relationship over the net? Just curious, is it a relationship where you met the person before hand and they moved, or did you actually get into the relationship over the net?

]]> By: Snaps http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-604 Snaps Sat, 08 Aug 2009 08:29:20 +0000 http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-604 I have been in this relationship for almost 9 months and as i stated, yes, it IS hard..and YES it takes TWO strong-willed people to make it work. long distance relationships, i believe, obviously take a lot more work and strength. It cannot be a one sided thing. If the feeling between the two people is not mutual, it most definately will not work. I appreciate the wonderful comment and i also appreciate that you are one of the few people who can show the common courtesy respect to another person, despite the choices they've decided to make. Thank you very much! I have been in this relationship for almost 9 months and as i stated, yes, it IS hard..and YES it takes TWO strong-willed people to make it work. long distance relationships, i believe, obviously take a lot more work and strength. It cannot be a one sided thing. If the feeling between the two people is not mutual, it most definately will not work. I appreciate the wonderful comment and i also appreciate that you are one of the few people who can show the common courtesy respect to another person, despite the choices they’ve decided to make. Thank you very much!

]]> By: FATMAN http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-603 FATMAN Fri, 07 Aug 2009 06:28:51 +0000 http://ouryouthvoice.com/?p=527#comment-603 Wonderfully stated! I personally have never been in a long distance relationship but I would definitely expect it to require much more than a normal one. Your relationship must be very strong to pass through all of the challenges accompanying hundreds of miles of seperation. Kudos to you and I bet many just find the long-distance part unbelievable because of the lack of physicality that is so often required in relationships these days, not that I was around before these days. Wonderfully stated! I personally have never been in a long distance relationship but I would definitely expect it to require much more than a normal one. Your relationship must be very strong to pass through all of the challenges accompanying hundreds of miles of seperation. Kudos to you and I bet many just find the long-distance part unbelievable because of the lack of physicality that is so often required in relationships these days, not that I was around before these days.

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