Many people say long distance relationships don’t always last, and this is true, for the most part. Personally, I think people should respect those people in long distance relationships, instead of mocking them for their “stupidity” and “ignorance”. I believe if two people love each other, they have a right to be with eachother, no matter the distance. Granted there are exceptions such as age, etc, but distance shouldn’t matter. People in long distance relationships are really no different from those in close distance relationships.
I for one, am in a long distance relationship, and many people have told me I am “crazy”, or “stupid”, or “dumb” because I’m dating someone in a different state. Those people who mock me or other people in the same situation as me are pretty much saying (in my opinion, of course) they can’t handle a long distance relationship, and so if THEY can’t handle it, then to them, it’s automatically ludacris. If you want to have a long distance relationship, I support it 100%.
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Wonderfully stated! I personally have never been in a long distance relationship but I would definitely expect it to require much more than a normal one. Your relationship must be very strong to pass through all of the challenges accompanying hundreds of miles of seperation. Kudos to you and I bet many just find the long-distance part unbelievable because of the lack of physicality that is so often required in relationships these days, not that I was around before these days.
I have been in this relationship for almost 9 months and as i stated, yes, it IS hard..and YES it takes TWO strong-willed people to make it work. long distance relationships, i believe, obviously take a lot more work and strength. It cannot be a one sided thing. If the feeling between the two people is not mutual, it most definately will not work. I appreciate the wonderful comment and i also appreciate that you are one of the few people who can show the common courtesy respect to another person, despite the choices they’ve decided to make. Thank you very much!
Just curious, is it a relationship where you met the person before hand and they moved, or did you actually get into the relationship over the net?
I met the person through a family member (they were friends) and when I met him, we instantly fell for eachother. He already lived in a different state. I was born and raised in Denver, so most of my family is still up there. So he’s always been in a different state but we met before we got into a relationship.
Oh, it’s good that you’ve seen him then
Yeah, it’s great for a girl if the two are ACTUALLY and SINCERELY in love.
But you have to think about things logically. Unless there are two people who live in reality and ACTUALLY love each other (I love you is easy to say without meaning it, especially for a guy), it makes sense that a person (again, not saying my gender is awesome here– we’re usually the ones to screw over a girl) is 10x more likely to cheat.
That’s the only reason why I didn’t pursue a relationship with a girl who lives in Michigan. She’s amazing, funny, smart, and beautiful– but that’s just the problem. She IS beautiful, and guys know it. It’d be easy for any one of them with giant abs to manipulate her by saying they’re “in love with her” and they were “meant to be together” and that their boyfriend “isn’t around.”
So, if you’re fully confident that there is no possibility that there could be a cheating party, be my guest. I don’t know you– you could be a fully intelligent person in this matter in a relationship with a guy who actually and genuinely IS totally in love with you.
But what I’m saying is that there are a lot more douchebag guys pretending to be the most romantic thing in the world than genuinely good guys who want to be with a girl because of who she is. So don’t live in ignorance by saying, “Go for it, it’s awesome!” Because us guys are morons, and that’s a fact.
i agree. trust is a huge factor in long distance relationships, and if both people don’t contribute to that factor, it’s just going to fall apart in front of you.
Many guys are in relationships just to “get some”, and that’s why ALL relationships are difficult, because you have to determine whether or not they are being honest, or if they are just trying to get in your pants. (this goes for some females too, don’t get me wrong, i’m not being sexist and pointing the finger at just males.) So you have to ask yourself, are you willing to get hurt to find out if this is the real thing, or just a fling. As for me personally, i know i have the real thing and i’m more than thrilled to say, i’m moving back to Denver in a few months and we will finally be closer to eachother. Thank you for your comment!