Tag Archive: Sociology


Friends: Bouncers or Comforters?

Friends are always there for us, whether it be good, or whether it be bad. Many people believe having a “good friend” is being able to ask them to do anything for them, and their friend will oblige. Personally, I don’t believe this is true. Friends should always be there for us when we are in a compromising situation, to comfort us, and make us feel better. This does not mean doing someone else’s ‘dirty work’.

If they get involved in a situation they don’t belong in, it could benefit poorly in their postion, as well as their friend who dragged them into the problem in the first place. I don’t believe friends should “go after” who ever messed with their friend, rather be there for that person and comfort them.

I’ve learned this from experience that if you get involved in a situation that doesn’t concern you personally, you should simply keep your distance and stay loyal to your friends in a SAFE WAY. Being a “good friend” doesn’t necessarily mean you fix the problem yourself.

People have to fight their own battles, no matter how hard they are. A little help never harmed anyone, but getting involved is a different story, there is a very fine line dividing “helping out” and “getting involved”.  People never realize how strong they really are, until being strong is the only option they have.

Life unfortunately is a cruel thing, and it’s unfair and dealing with it can be very stressful, but  friends are there to ease the pain away from stress, not simply making it go away.

–Snaps

Our society has many faults, but one I really don’t understand is how the negative appearance, particularly concerning weight, is considered an acceptable and time-consuming topic of conversation.

I hear it all the time. “Have you seen how fat she’s getting?”, “Jeez, he needs to get a bra for his manboobs”, and “She’s too skinny.  I bet she never eats” are commonly phrases used to poke fun at someone, and I personally find it disgusting.  It’s time that this kind of superficial categorization is stopped.

First of all, how is talking about someone’s weight even interesting?  Yeah, maybe being anorexic or obese is unhealthy and not particularly attractive, but why the duration of the discussion is longer than two seconds is a mystery to me.  Is someone who feels a compulsive need to criticize the appearance of others simply such a boring person that they have to attack others in order to come up with a topic to talk about at all?  If not, then why not discuss something else?  There’s plenty of topics out there that are more relevant.  To me, even gossipping about that one girl that hooked up with that one basketball player is more mature than talking about weight.  At least the former actually reflects on who the person is, even if it the content may distort the truth.

Which brings me to the second point.  How does someone’s physical appearance show who they are on the inside?  Believe it or not, some people actually believe that those with a healthier weight have better personalities than their over or underweight counterparts.  Overweight people are stereotyped as lazy while underweight people are said to be overconforming to society.  This is not always true.  Body shape is strongly correlated with genetics, and sometimes there is not a lot someone can do to change it.  If a person is genuinely nice, then who really cares?  It’s not your body, so don’t judge it.  And by the way, you really don’t have to check it out. No one is forcing you to stare at anyone’s cellulite.  Even if they’re wearing short shorts, you can still look elsewhere, maybe into their eyes, where most people prefer you look anyway.

And if that isn’t enough to convince you, think of how the person talked about feels.  He/she is probably already really self-conscious about themselves, and they don’t need you to rag on them even more.  How would you feel if you overheard people criticize you for something as trivial as your body shape?  Not so good, right?

It’s not even just preteen girls that do it.  It’s guys, girls, men, women of all ages.  It’s universal, but if you happen to be one of the few that refuse to participate in this superficial trend, then kudos to you.

In conclusion, next time you run out of topics to discuss, try talking about somthing that doesn’t make fun of someone else.  There’s so much more variety in that category, and I’m sure you’ll find that they’re much more fun to discuss anyway.

-chelliejellie10

Music – It's a Way of Life.

Music. We all have heard it. We all have at least acknowledged it. And luckily, there are many that have taken it as a profession. We are fortunate to have (had) such musicians as Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, The Beatles, Tupac Shakur, Johnny Cash, B.B. King, Bob Marley, and all the other greats that have inspired people and fellow musicians today. If they were never to exist, who knows what our musical world would sound like? Our daily schedules may even change because of the way we are influenced by it. Our very moods and feelings fractionally depend on the power of music.

One of the most amazing characteristics that music has is that we sometimes don’t even realize when its being exposed upon us. Within almost every electronic device, there is some form of this great art being utilized. From the beeping of an alarm clock to the ringtone of a cell phone, music ubiquitously intrudes on our lives. Even when watching television, music is used as a form of propaganda to influence us, the loyal customers, to buy the sponsored companies’ products (i.e. McDonald’s “I’m lovin’ it”). When commercials aren’t being shown, the shows (i.e. Seinfeld’s interludes of bass riffs) and movies (i.e. the dramatic score of the Star Wars trilogy) we all love have a great amount of orchestrations and songs being used to make us feel the ambiance of the various scenes of love, tragedy, comic relief, and suspense.

Another lovely use of music is its application in school. In elementary school, we enjoyed the extra “break” from work, aside from recess, to bang on xylophones, beat wooden sticks together, and sing traditional folks songs (I speak of these from my wonderful experience at Sonoran Sky Elementary). After that short transition in and out of middle school, high school gave us the opportunity to take music seriously. From Choir to Guitar to Piano to Dance to Orchestra to AP Music Theory (my subject), students bring forth their right-brained abilities and are given the chance to find out if they might consider music as a career.

Lastly, what I consider the most important thing that we can use music for, music brings people together. It gives people the harmony and rhythm that greatly assists in keeping the world a more peaceful place. As the French composer Edgard Varése famously stated, “Music is organized sound.” The subconscious thought of “organization” may be why music impacts us so much, and why we should use it to our advantage to give us the expression and tranquility that we need. Going back to what was stated before, we are fortunate to have the innovative artists that we have today and that we still listen to from when they ruled our worlds. As we listen to them throughout our days, on our iPods or Zunes or others of the sort, we receive the messages these musicians send to the world. And when these messages aren’t towards society or certain individuals, they make us feel “that feeling” – that feeling that you are alone in your own world, able to do anything at all and able to live your life the way you want.

I’d like to finish this article by celebrating everyone and everything that somehow contributed to releasing music into our universe: musicians, musicians’ families, musicians’ fans, musicians’ inspirations, producers, managers, record companies, musical instruments, schools, friends, iTunes, iPods, LimeWire, torrents, technology, feelings, expressions, catchphrases, relationships, sex, drugs, dreams, hallucinations, God, Buddha, Allah, all the remaining deities and supernaturals, and all the other less significant influences on music that I haven’t remembered to add on to this list.

-Iron Man

New items are coming out all the time, each and everyday. They stock the shelves of stores all around the world. Anything from electronics, clothing, shoes, houseware, you name it, there is always something new being introduced into the world. Many people believe it is mandatory to have the newest and the best, every single day.

Name brand items for clothing such as Prada, Dolce & Gabbana, Coach, and Gucci, are household names today. My question is, why spend $500.00 on a purse,  clothing , or along those lines that really only costs around $30.00 to manufacture? People nowadays are buying the name of the company, not the product itself.

From shoes and clothes, to iPods and cell phones, we see it everywhere. Teens are now demanding  name brand products, instead of owning generic items for hundreds of dollars less. Money is a big issue in society now, and the name brand companies aren’t lowering their prices to accomodate to peoples budgets.

Until some people step up and demand they won’t pay the outrageous prices for a basically inexpensive product, money is going to be wasted on unneccesary things, and neccesary items won’t be affordable to the common household any longer. Nowadays, people buy a name, not a product. Now teens can buy their way into popularity and acception, instead of earning it like we should.

Teens everywhere are pressured to the have the best of the best, everyday, no matter what it is. Another cruel way to conform to society. It isn’t “bad” to have generic material that is just as good as name brand products. Why waste money on something you may not like a week later?

–Snaps

Why Judge Who We Are?

For years, teens and adults alike have been judged for what they choose to like or dislike. Whether it be in the terms of music, clothing, stereotypes, schools, people: anything.  Each and every one of us are judged each and every day.

My question is, why judge anyone when you are judged yourself? It’s hypocritical to judge others when the same thing is being done to you. We are all different, and we should all be accepted for who we are individually. No one should conform to anything in particular if you feel you don’t belong in it, just to be accepted. Too many people end up changing the people they really are because they are more focused on being accepted for something they aren’t. Society nowadays somewhat forces people to conform to things they don’t like, sort of to simplify things. The fact is, life isn’t “simple” and it never will be. Everyone is different in their own ways and no one has the right to say other wise.

Everyone should show who they are on the inside instead of changing themselves to seem “cool” or “popular,” or simply accepted. We see it everywhere: in schools, jobs, homes, you name it. The fact is, everyone judges someone at least once. We can’t help it. It’s simply human nature to do so. It’s like a double-edged sword situation where we don’t like being judged, but none of us can just “stop” judging others.

In my opinion, we all judge and are judged and we shouldn’t complain when we are judged by others. None of us are perfect, we all have our flaws. No matter how much someone appears to be “perfect” and happy, no one really knows who they are on the inside, because we are all so wrapped up in appearing to be the “perfect person we always wanted to be.”

–snaps

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